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3 Steps to Peaceful Truthful Relations

In the last couple of months I have made a commitment to myself and therefore to others as well, to relate better to those around me, particularly but not exclusively, in intimate relationships. This is an extension of my commitment to love myself and to create the life I want and dream of for myself. This in turn changes how others relate to me.

I realised that all communication can be broken down into these steps, the order and practice of each is essential in peaceful and honest communication and love:
1. To know what we want and what our needs are.  2. To be able to express these desires clearly, calmly and honestly.  3. To be able to listen to and have respect and compassion for the needs of others. 
Number one is not as easy as it seems, it requires a connection and a knowledge of ourselves that is honest and open, untainted by ego and reaction to others - which leads to conflict in all its forms.  How often do we think we know what we want but it's really a response to hurt, disa…